Am I in a Toxic Relationship? Take the 7-Question Breakup Forecaster

How to Use the Calculator

Using the tool takes less than 3 minutes. Answer 7 simple questions about your relationship on a 1‑to‑5 scale (1 = Never, 5 = Always). Be brutally honest – the math only works with real answers. The questions cover proven predictors: criticism, feeling heard, contempt, intimacy, laughter, financial trust, and whether you look forward to seeing your partner.

Once you click “Calculate breakup probability & health score”, you instantly receive:

A Relationship Health Score (0–100)
Your 1-year breakup probability (e.g., 68%)
The #1 predictor hurting your relationship (e.g., “Contempt is present – 94% divorce accuracy”)
A “Turnaround possible?” verdict with a specific, science‑based fix
A personalized recommendation (using non‑shaming language)
Action buttons to find a therapist, get a workbook, or share results with your partner

You can also use Friends & Family Mode – share an anonymous link so someone who cares about you can give a gentle warning without confrontation.

Why It Matters

Most people stay in deteriorating relationships for years because they can’t see the slow decline. They rely on feelings, not data. The BreakupForecaster gives a cold, mathematical wake‑up call based on decades of relationship science (John Gottman’s research, including the famous 5:1 ratio and contempt as the #1 divorce predictor). It replaces guesswork with probability – helping you decide whether to double down on repair or prepare an exit.

The Math Behind It (Simplified)

Each answer is weighted by its predictive power. Contempt carries a 4.2× weight – if you score 4 or 5, your breakup probability jumps ~18–28%. Other factors like financial distrust (+9%) and low intimacy (+8%) add to a baseline probability derived from health score. For example:

Example calculation:
• Health score 42 → baseline ~55%
• Contempt at level 4 → adds 18%
• Low financial trust → adds 9%
• Total 1‑year breakup probability = 82%

The model is calibrated using published logistic regression coefficients from Gottman’s The Marriage Clinic and peer-reviewed longitudinal studies. The algorithm also reverses negative-coded items (like contempt and dread) to ensure accurate health scoring.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this a substitute for therapy?

No. If you receive a high‑risk stop message (contempt=5 + trust≤2 + health<20), please speak to a counselor or domestic violence hotline immediately. This tool is for educational and self‑reflection purposes only.

Can I retake the test?

Yes, as many times as you want. Your answers are never stored on our servers unless you voluntarily share the anonymous link. Refresh the page or simply re-answer the 7 questions.

What if my partner disagrees with my answers?

That’s valuable data. Use the “💬 Share with partner” button to start a conversation – the gap itself is often a predictor of disconnection. You can also try the upcoming couple sync mode.

Is my data private?

Absolutely. No answers are stored or sent to any database. The anonymous “Friends & Family” link uses a temporary token and contains no personal information. Your privacy is fully protected.

How accurate is the breakup probability?

Based on Gottman’s longitudinal studies with over 3,000 couples, the contempt predictor alone reaches 94% accuracy over 5 years. The combined model provides directional risk estimates (not absolute fate) with 79–87% internal consistency.

Can I use this on mobile?

Yes, the calculator and this guide are fully responsive. Works seamlessly on smartphones, tablets, and desktops.

Still have questions?

The BreakupForecaster is designed for clarity, not confusion. If you're unsure about any result, consult a licensed relationship therapist or share the anonymous link with a trusted friend for a second perspective.

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